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How To Ask For (And Get) 10X More Referrals [VIDEO]

In the real estate industry, a strong referral network is key to success. But how do you go about getting more referrals? In this video, By Referral Only Coach Dan Paris shares some tips for how to ask for (and get) 10x more referrals. You’re going to love these linguistics tips. Watch now to learn more!

Say It Differently!

Who do you know who might want to buy/sell/finance/refinance a home?

Who is the next person you know whose family is expanding?

Here are some more scenarios:

The Top 10 Reasons People Move Or Refinance

  • Who do you know who is living in an apartment and would love to own a home of their own?
  • Who do you know whose children are moving out and are finding that their home is too large?
  • Who do you know who has a family that is expanding and is ready to move to a larger home?
  • Who do you know who lives in a neighborhood that is no longer convenient to where they work and would like to sell and move to a more convenient location?
  • Who do you know who might also be selling their business, and as a result, may be moving?
  • Who do you know who is about to retire and as a result may be moving?
  • Who do you know who may be going through a divorce or has just gone through one and as a result may be selling their home or looking for a new one?
  • Who else do you know who might be changing jobs in your company and needs help relocating?
  • Who do you know who might need to consolidate their debt and could use some help deciding if refinancing their home is a good decision?
  • Who do you know who might need equity from their home to remodel / finance college / buy a second home and could benefit from talking to a loan consultant?

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What You Say In Response To "How's Business?

It can be difficult to ask for referrals. You may feel like you’re imposing or that you’re putting someone in an awkward position. The key is to find the right language, at the right moment, so that asking for a referral feels more like a natural extension of your relationship than an obligation. And, remember, people are more likely to give you referrals if they know, like, and trust you. So make sure you nurture those relationships! 

If you’re looking for more ways to generate consistent referrals, be sure to check out our other training resources or click below to take a tour. And, as always, feel free to reach out if you have any questions – we’re here to help!

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